(Lifestyle) Five Costs of Living Online

The web has altered daily life radically. It provides up-to-date information to enable people to make educated and informed decisions, including choosing among the products and services available online.

The Internet has become central to modern life. 

The web has altered daily life radically. It provides up-to-date information to enable people to make educated and informed decisions, including choosing among the products and services available online.

Because the Internet is always open, people can search for information, shop or find entertainment at any hour. They can learn to do almost anything or delve into almost any topic at the pace they choose. The Internet also enables people to customize products and services.    

And this has deep impact on our lives.

“Constantly switching between phones, tablets, laptops and wearables could reduce our attention span and ability to focus on extended tasks.” 

Therefore, let discuss further on the top 5 cost of living online

1. “Too Many Temptations”

Many people sit down planning to surf the Internet for a little while, but end up spending countless hours online. The vast number of websites which are specifically designed as an all hypnotic eye candy is too tempting to ignore.  

Constantly giving in to temptation is routine online behavior, but it’s a bad habit. People who can fight temptation will be more successful in life in terms of such factors as “school grades, SAT scores, income, divorce rates and physical health” than those who regularly give in to temptation.  Sometimes temptation can become a destructive addiction. 

Three areas of the Internet can be particularly addictive: 

  1. gaming,
  2. shopping; and
  3. pornography. 

Some hardcore gamers spend 18 hours a day at play. Online catalogs and erotica can be equally addictive. 

2. “Too Much Information”  

The typical supermarket carries nearly 50,000 items; and that’s already a huge number of options to filter when you shop. But the Internet features far more, a seemingly infinite number of products in every category. And therefore, product reviews makes an awesome niche.

And products aren’t the only choices online, there’s other temptation.

You can find out what reviewers think of books, movies and virtually anything else you might subscribe to or buy. 

This nearly limitless availability of different products and services often results in “choice paralysis.”

To deal with it, try these solutions: 

  1. “Satisfice, don’t maximize” – Marketing’s primary message to consumers is no matter what the product or service is, you should always buy the best. Resist that message; don’t shop forever or consider everything. Be willing to accept a “good enough” choice. That makes selecting what to buy online much simpler. Always consider the pros and cons, make an educated choice and be happy with the choice you make.
  2. “Delegate choice” – Let professionals like travel agents make crucial decisions for you. For less-complicated choices, set up decision-making rules before you shop.  
  3. “Decision tools” – Utilize “product-filtering tools” such as those that Trivago makes available, to narrow down your purchase options. For instance, you can filter hotel choices by cost or specific requirement.      

3. “Too Much Customization”  

The Internet allows customers to apply extraordinary customization capabilities to a variety of products and services. For instance, there are wallets and watches that can be customized to your liking.

This degree of customization has several drawbacks. For example, take the opinions you choose to consider. Since you can tailor your online  associations, your choices can create echo chambers in which you hear only those other Internet users who hold the same attitudes. People often find that they’re congregating online only with like-minded counterparts. They stop hearing new ideas or learning new facts or facets of issues. Everything communicated to them matches what they’ve already been exposed to in the past. This inhibits creativity and analysis.  

To avoid the echo chamber effect, open yourself to considering different thinkers, including people who hold contrasting opinions. Spend time  on Quora, a website that enables people with different  backgrounds and viewpoints to weigh in on various “hot-button questions.”  

4. “Too Many Comparisons”  

Facebook has more than one billion users. Each user has, on average, 200 Facebook friends, it has been liken to having 33 Millions people in a room

If you are on Facebook, you may compare yourself with all of the other people with whom you’re in touch. This is what Facebook users do, as well as people on Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Periscope and YouTube. The Internet is a giant, worldwide comparison machine.  

Many of these comparisons are “upward social comparisons,” in which people contrast themselves with those who are doing better  financially. 

Such comparisons hurt. 

When people present themselves to others on the Internet, they try to look as good as possible. Say that one person online presents one bit of positive personal information. Another follows with a better individual  update, then the first person writes something more self-aggrandizing, and  on and on. Communication online becomes “keeping up with the Joneses.”  The costs associated with these billions of comparisons can be huge: and that includes envy,  jealousy, covetousness and sadness. This in the long run lead to depression.

To deal with hurtful upward social comparisons, make some “downward social comparisons.” Compare yourself to people who don’t do as well as you. Downward social comparisons can make you feel thankful for what you have and who you are. “Fight…envy with gratefulness.” 

5. “Too Little Privacy”  

Whatever hits the Internet stays on the Internet, often forever. This  information resides online in credit card databases, Google archives, Facebook servers and in the electronic vaults of the National Security Agency. Smart operators can try to access all of your online information to  learn all about you so they can sell to you or steal your identity.   

This only partially describes how today’s zone of personal privacy is shrinking dramatically.Internet service providers and governments now can record your text messages, even your phone calls.Data companies can combine this personal information with geolocation data from cellphone towers to trace your movements. 

Facebook is even looking at a mobile app that would activate your cellphone’s microphone to capture the audio from TV shows or songs playing in your vicinity. The app could then annotate your Facebook status in real time. For example, it might indicate that you currently “are listening to the band Arcade Fire or watching Game of Thrones.” Do you want people to know that much about your activities all the time?

Many online organizations now post statements on their websites that outline their privacy policies. Review these statements from Facebook, eBay, Expedia,iTunes,and the like before you become an active user.Unfortunately,few people actually read them.Some online firms publish “privacy certifications” on their sites saying that they subscribe to the “best privacy practices.” You can modify your privacy settings on websites and on browsers such as Internet Explorer and Firefox – and thus increase your privacy protection. Another way to protect your privacy is to use the settings on your smart devices – televisions, computers, phones, cars and refrigerators – to prevent them from collecting data that then ends up in the hands of marketers. 


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(Blogging) “Lifestyle Business”

“Today you can use the Internet to design your lifestyle and career around the interests, hobbies and businesses that most interest you.”

Today, many people find that the standard job’s commute time, work environment and constant threat of layoffs provoke worry. Moreover, they’re not making enough money to do the things they enjoy away from work. Creating and building an online business offers on-the-job satisfaction and the freedom to pursue your hobbies and interests.

The Internet challenges traditional methods of conducting business. New technologies have changed the way people publish information, promote their firms and distribute products and services. Companies now can easily automate or outsource commercial functions that once required a staff of employees – including tasks such as order taking, inventory control, billing and correspondence.

“Your life is a limited time offer that only you can redeem.”

Geographic restrictions or budget constraints no longer limit the potential of small enterprises. While any business can fail, online you can readjust and begin again. As blogger Chris Guillebeau says, “If Plan A fails, you have 25 more letters.” Successful entrepreneurs with the foresight and ambition to start an online business can reap lifestyle benefits that include financial security, self-sufficiency and job satisfaction.

“The only person who cares about your personal fulfillment and financial independence is you.”

“Click Millionaires” use “websites, e-commerce, digital publishing and social media to build businesses that offer their ideas and products to the world on their own schedules and terms.” As a click millionaire, you can make money doing work you enjoy.

“Today you can use the Internet to design your lifestyle and career around the interests, hobbies and businesses that most interest you.”


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Pernikahan, Sunnah Rasullullah

“Cinta adalah komunikasi hati yang siap membangunkan jaringannya yang luas. Ia bukan kata yang hanya dalam beberapa saat akan hilang tidak berbekas.”

Pernikahan ialah sunnah Rasullullah s.a.w. dan merupakan satu ibadah.

Sabda baginda s.a.w.,

“Kalian yang mengatakan ini dan itu. Demi Allah ! Sungguh aku adalah orang yang paling takut dan paling bertakwa kepada Allah. Tetapi aku berpuasa dan tetap berbuka, aku solat tetapi tetap tidur, dan aku juga menikahi perempuan. Maka, sesiapa yang tidak menyukai sunnahku, dia tidak termasuk dalam kalangan umatku.”

(Sahih Bukhari No. 5063, daripada Anas bin Malik.)

Ustaz Pahlol Mohamad Juoi, dalam bukunya Pesan Hati untuk Hati, mengatakan,

“Dengan memilih untuk mencintai Allah s.w.t., para sahabat memiliki segala-galanya. Jikalau kita memiliki cinta kepada Allah s.w.t. kita sudah memiliki segala-galanya. Justeru, kerana pilihan itu, para sahabat mengamalkan prinsip hidup yang meletakkan dunia di tangan dan akhirat di hati.”

Ayat-ayat Cinta,

“Cinta adalah komunikasi hati yang siap membangunkan jaringannya yang luas. Ia bukan kata yang hanya dalam beberapa saat akan hilang tidak berbekas.”

The Motivation Spectrum

If people are already motivated, the question now is, how motivated are they? The answer lies in the 6 “motivational outlooks” on the spectrum of motivation.

These outlook do not form a continuum. At one moment, we might operate in one particular motivational outlook and later, we may operate with an entirely diferent one.

To illustrate how motivaional outlook work, consier them in light of a routine meeting where 6 different employees are each operating individually based on a different mode of motivation:

  1. Disinterest – This one hated the meeting and considered it as as waste of time.
  2. External – This one leverage the meeting to show off his power and status within the organization.
  3. Imposed – This one is forced by his or her superiors to attend the meeting. Their superiors might be angry if they missed the meeting.
  4. Aligned – This one loved attending meeting, and felt they might gain valueable knowledge from that meeting.
  5. Integrated – this one enjoyed the meeting because her life has a noble purpose, and the meeting focused on that purpose.
  6. Inherent – This one is gregarious, loves being around people and attends all meetings.

“Setting measurable goals and outcomes is important. Having a defined finish line in front of you can be positively compelling.”

The first 3 motivational outlook are in the suboptimal motivation category and they represent the low-quality motivation or motivational junk food.

People operating based on suboptimal motivational modes often say things like,

“I have to”

“I must”

“I should”

“I’m requied to”

“It’s necessary”

“Because it’s my duty.”

“Everyday, your employees’ appraisal of their workplace leaves them with or without a positive sense of well-being. Their well-being determines their intentions, and intentions are the greatest predictors of behavior.”

The remaining 3 motivational outlook are the optimal ones. They show the kind of motivation which we want, for ourselves, our employees and the people we care about.

They are motivational “health food”.

Outlook based on alignment, integration and inherent motivation generate high-quality energy, vitality and positive well-being which leads to a sustainable results. People with optimal motivation outlook often say,

“I get to”

“I have decided to”

“I am lucky to”

“I elect to”

“External Motivators”

Organization at times would turn to external motivators to influence their employees. These motivators include money, incentives or a bigger office or even bigger title which are tangable, or approval, status, shame or fear, which are intangible. These forces work directly against the important psychological requirements employees have for autonomy, relatedness and competence.

External motivators actually undermine motivation.

“The quality of our beliefs determines the quality of our leadership values. Our leadership values ultimately determine how we lead and the quality of the workplace we create.”

External motivators can take control over our employees, driving and compelling them to act in a certain way, thus robbing them of autonomy. And eventually, the employees will come to resent the loss of control.

A self-defeating inherent message accompanies any external motivator:

“If you do as I say, then you will be rewarded”

This ham-handed message can gain only temporary, “conditional support” from the employees.

“Not all beliefs are values, but all values are beliefs”

Optimal Motivation

For most organizations, motivation is what their employees can do for them. But this reverses crucial priorities.

The magic of motivation kick into overdrive when managers address what the can do for their employees.

Answering that question fulfills one o the basic rules of motivation:

“When we focus on what we want for people, we are more likely to get the results we want from people.”

So, instead of trying to drive or control employees with carrots and sticks, or pigeon pellets, help promote thriving employees by meeting their crucial autonomy, relatedness an competence psychological needs, which are their “basic desire to thrive.”

Organizations need to move beyond a strict focus on corporate priorities which usually centered around “results, performance and productivity.”

“Great leadership takes great practice. When it comes to motivation, leadership practice includes being a role model.”

And when companies focuses on autonomy, relatedness and competence, they and their people will stand to benefit. Organizations that focus on ARC develop sel-governing workforce who believe in accountability. Such companies promote strong personal relationships, which motivate examplary “citizenship behaviors” among employees. This emphasis on competence and professional development helps create and sustain learning organizations.

Therefore, organization should help their employees to understand why they are motivated. Adopting a motivational strateg based on ARC values which ensures that our employees have an optimal motivational outlook. And when leaders model this attitude, it can become a defining characteristic of our organization, a win-win-win for employees, manager and the company.

And hence, a much holistic working culture.

The ‘Motivation Dilemma”

Managers face a motivation dilemma. Their organizations insiste that they to motivate their subordinate to work hard to meet the corporate goals. Unfortunately, since no one can motivate another person which is an impossible task to do.

That’s the dilemma.

Executives and managers who want to understand motivation should and must understand the “appraisal process”.

Employees appraise things according to what important to them and their priorities might differ from that of their managers and corporate leaders.

So, the factors which motivate employees may not align with what we want them to be motivated toward accomplishing. The goals that drive their motivation may not be akin to the objectives which we want to encourage.

“It is a mistake to think that people are not motivated. They are simply longing for the needs they cannot name.”

For example,

In 2002, the Boston Red Sox wanted to lure Oakland A’s general manager Billy Beane to come work for them. And they offered him then what would have been the largest GM salary in baseball. They were shocked when he turned it down. But Beane appraised the offer against what mattered to him – “his family and the love of baseball.”

“The real story of motivating is that people are learners who long to grow, enjoy their work, be productive, make positive contributions and build lasting relationships.”

And in case of Beane, he never cared about money, so the Red Sox’s huge salary offer meant little to him. They couldn’t motivate him because he was already motivated, but in different way than the Red Sox wanted.

This is always the proble when we try to motivate people. They already are motivated but sometimes in ways we may not like.

However, we want our employees’ individual motivations to align with our organization’s goal. But now we understand that trying to leverage “motivational forces” to compel people to do as we want won’t work.

So, how can we align their goals and the company’s goals?

“It is time to stop beating our people with carrots-and-sticks and embrace different, more effective leadership strategies.”

First, understand that our employees are learners, they want to do well, they want to make solid contributions and they want their organization’s executives to think well of them. They also want to have “autonomy, relatedness and competence ” or ARC, which is the essential psychological needs.

“Rewards may help people initiate new and healthy behaviors, but they fail miserably in helping people maintain their progress or sustain results.”

Instead of offering contests or prizes, encourage your employees by enabling them to gain autonomy. That’s the secret to motivation.

Offer independence and relate to them as human beings. Help them to grow professionally and personally. Don’t worry about what they can do for you, but rather worry about what you can do for them.

In that environment, your employees will become more motivated to perform better.

When you offer autonomy, related to them and encourage their competence, and they will respond.

That’s simple human nature.

7 Important Challenges to Take for a Better Life

  1. When we catch ourselves oerthinking things, challenge ourselves to take a step forward instead.
  2. When we have 2 good options, challenge ourselves to go with the one that scares us because it will more likely to help us grow faster.
  3. When we’re going to do something new, challenge ourselves to do it with enthusiasm and devotion.
  4. When we make mistakes, challenge ourselves to learn from them, rather than pointing fingers at others and ourselves.
  5. When we find ourselves trying to control too much, which in itself a recipe for unfulfilment, challenge ourselves to let go and enjoy the moment.
  6. When someone treats us poorly, and regardless of who we are, it will happens sometime, challenge ourselves to treat them with kindness and respect.
  7. When we catch ourselves thinking that the grass is greener elsewhere, challenge ourselves to water the grass we’re standing on.

Give Up Living Our Life According to Other People’s Expectation

Never let other people opinions hinder us from going down the road we think we should travel.

We should choose the life we want even if it aggravates other people. We can offer others only as much as we give ourselves.

If we don’t find peace from within, we won’t be able to experience peace with others. 

Strive to make ourselves joyous and to see our life as important.

Always and continues to work wholeheartedly on what we think matters most.