Search Inside Yourself — Book review

The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace)

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Search Inside Yourself — Gauging Happiness

In Search Inside Yourself, Meng intends to teach you “contemplative practices” that – aside from having the imprimatur of the ages – can make you happier. He is committed to these practices personally and professionally. He explains that determining the “relative activation” of an area of your brain’s left prefrontal cortex as compared with its right prefrontal cortex gives you a reliable indication of your happiness.

The greater the activity in the left prefrontal cortex, the more you register delight, passion, and energy. More right-side activity means darker emotions. Meng is the first Google engineer to abandon engineering for “People Ops”, Google’s name for human resources. He took this extraordinary step so he could teach “emotional intelligence” to Googlers.

He was part of a team – “including a Zen master, a CEO, a Stanford University scientist and [author] Daniel Goleman” that created the three-step “Search Inside Yourself” program, which has been part of Google’s curriculum since 2007.

The steps are:

  1. “Attention training” 
    Governing your ever-wandering attention means finding calmness and clarity. A calm mind can look inward.
  2. “Self-knowledge and self-mastery” 
    When you can control your attention, apply it to your “cognitive and emotive processes.” This lets you consider your “thought stream” and how your emotions function.
  3. “Creating useful mental habits”
    Harmful mental behaviours include jealousy, resentment, and self-doubt. Meng suggests adopting a counter-balancing mental habit, such as wishing sincerely for the best outcomes for everyone you encounter.
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Goleman’s five-part definition of “emotional intelligence”:

  1. Self-awareness: means that you know what you feel and intuit – and that you know your mental and emotional strengths and weaknesses.
  2. Self-regulation: means handling your inner feelings and impulses.
  3. Motivation is your drive to achieve what you seek.
  4. Empathy: means recognizing others’ feelings.
  5. Social skills have a specific, self-serving job: to get other people to do what you want.

Search Inside Yourself — Meditation

Meng’s explanation of meditation as “mental training” highlights his motivation to be of service. He teaches that just beginning to meditate will lead you to a state of being simultaneously “alert and relaxed.” Meditation improves your focus without anxiety. Think of meditation as exercise.

For example, you push against resistance when you lift weights and you push against fatigue when you go for a run. As you develop patience, strength, and skill, you encounter less resistance. The more you meditate, the less resistance you will encounter from your mind and emotions.

Meng explains patiently that every meditation starts with an intention. Your intention might be just to feel less stressed. After you identify your intention, sit quietly and “follow your breath” – that is, heed your breathing in and out to “gather your attention.” You’ll feel a moment of calm. As you improve your meditation practice, this period might last for hours.

In the beginning, it will last only a few seconds until you become distracted. Meng warns that most people’s first distraction is “self-criticism.” Recognize that even punishing ideas are merely thoughts – “clouds across the sky.” Let each notion pass, and focus again on breathing. This process increases your awareness of patterns in your thinking and emotions. To help decrease “self-hatred” and negative self-talk, Meng coaches you to shift your thoughts to a mode of “self-directed kindness.”

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Search Inside Yourself — Breathing and Posture

Sitting correctly fosters alertness and relaxation. The traditional posture, as Meng shows, includes a straight back; legs in the lotus position; shoulders relaxed, “up and back”; chin down; eyes closed or looking at nothing in particular; tongue touching the upper palate; and lips slightly open with a relaxed jaw.

As you breathe, lift your ribs. As you exhale, drop your shoulders but keep your spine straight. Noise, physical sensation or thoughts can distract you; if that happens, just “acknowledge” that you’re distracted. Don’t judge or react to the sensation. If you do react, like being startled, stay mindful through the reaction, and keep going.

Self-Awareness Competencies

Meditation builds mindfulness, which builds self-awareness. As you become self-aware, you will develop several useful competencies. The first is “emotional awareness,” the ability to identify your emotions and how they affect you.

The next is “accurate self-assessment,” how to gauge your strengths and limits with objectivity. And you will develop “self-confidence,” an understanding of your worth and abilities.

Meng proposes a well-known mindfulness exercise that increases relaxation, reduces stress and nourishes focus. The body scan involves sitting quietly for two minutes while focusing on your breathing and nothing else. Then mentally move down your body, focusing on all you feel in each area in turn, while concentrating on your breath.

  • Focus on each area of your body for one minute.
  • Focus on the top of your head, your ears and the back of your head;
  • then on your forehead, eyes, cheeks, nose, lips, and mouth;
  • then on your neck and shoulders;
  • then on your back; then on your chest and stomach;
  • and then on your entire body at once.

You can perform a body scan any time you’re stressed when you first wake up before you go to sleep or whenever you like.

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You and Your Emotions

Meng teaches that you are not your emotions. They don’t define you. You may be used to saying that you’re happy or sad as if these states make up your entire identity. As you meditate and gain mindfulness, you’ll learn one of the most important and enduring lessons of mindfulness: Your emotions are only “what you feel.” You can evolve to understanding that emotions are just your physiological reaction to stimuli and to being able to master them, thanks to master Meng, who turns out to be quite a good fellow after all.

Read further into the happiness topic with “5 thieves of happiness“, “Happiness – A History“, and “Before Happiness” by Shawn Achor.

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Author: Muhamad Aarif

A notorious book addict by night and an oil and gas executive by day. As Mark Twain said, "The man who doesn't read good books has no advantage over the man who can't read them." So, read, read, and read some more.

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