Petanda kebaikan

Mana satu yang sedang menjadi tumpuan mata kita? Huhu…
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Ibn al-Qayyim berkata, “Maka petanda kebahagiaan adalah apabila kebaikan-kebaikan seorang hamba berada di belakangnya (tidak diingati) dan keburukan-keburukan menjadi tumpuan matanya.
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Petanda kecelakaan pula adalah apabila kebaikannya menjadi tumpuan matanya dan keburukannya terletak di belakangnya.” – Miftah Dar al-Sa‘adah
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Moral: Menjadi orang baik-baik, lain ujiannya. Bahkan kebaikan-kebaikan itulah ujiannya. Kena ingat selalu.

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Raising the hands (رفع اليدين) during Salah

Raising the hands (رفع اليدين) during Salah.

Narrated by Abu Qilaba:

I saw Malik bin Huwairith saying Takbir and raising both his hands (on starting the prayers and raising his hands on bowing and also on raising his head after bowing. Malik bin Huwairith said, “Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) did the same.”
[Sahih al-Bukhari 737]

Narrated by Salim bin `Abdullah:

My father said, “Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) used to raise both his hands up to the level of his shoulders when opening the prayer; and on saying the Takbir for bowing. And on raising his head from bowing he used to do the same and then say “Sami`a l-lahu liman hamidah, Rabbana wa laka l-hamd.” And he did not do that (i.e. raising his hands) in prostrations.
[Sahih al-Bukhari 735]

Imaam al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) wrote a separate book on this issue which he called Juz’ fi Raf’ al-Yadayn (Section on Raising the Hands), in which he proved that the hands should be raised at these two points on the prayer, and he strongly denounced those who go against that. He narrated that al-Hasan said: “The Companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to raise their hands during prayer when they bowed and when they stood up (from bowing).” Al-Bukhaari said, “Al-Hasan did not exclude any of the Sahaabah from that, and it was not proven that any one among the Sahaabah did not raise his hands.” [See al-Majmoo’ by al-Nawawi, 3/399-406.]

Ibn al-Qayyim said: “Look at the practice at the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and the Sahaabah after him. They used to raise their hands in prayer when doing rukoo’, and when standing up again. And in the time of the Sahaabah, if ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar saw someone not raising his hands in prayer, he would throw a stone at him. [I’laam al-Muwaqqi’een, 2/376]

This raising of the hands is mutawaatir (reported by so many to so many that it is inconceivable that they could all have agreed on a lie). It is the opinion of the majority of scholars and some of the Hanafis. (Sifat Salaat al-Nabi (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) by al-Albaani, p. 136).

There are many Hadith regarding this, and they mutawatir (stronger than sahih and narrated by so many companions that it cannot be a lie)

Narrated Salim bin `Abdullah:
My father said, “Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) used to raise both his hands up to the level of his shoulders when opening the prayer; and on saying the Takbir for bowing. And on raising his head from bowing he used to do the same and then say “Sami`a l-lahu liman hamidah, Rabbana wa laka l-hamd.” And he did not do that (i.e. raising his hands) in prostrations.

Sahih Al-Bukhari (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 12, Hadith 702

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Umar:
I saw that whenever Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) stood for the prayer, he used to raise both his hands up to the shoulders, and used to do the same on saying the Takbir for bowing and on raising his head from it and used to say, “Sami`a l-lahu liman hamidah”. But he did not do that (i.e. raising his hands) in prostrations.

Sahih Al-Bukhari (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 12, Hadith 703

After the tashahud in the second rak’ah, when you stand up you raise the hands,

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar that :
The Prophet (ﷺ) used to raise his hands when he began to pray, when he wanted to bow, when he raised his head from bowing, and when he stood up after the first two rak’ahs, he would raise his hands likewise, level with his shoulders.

Sunan An-Nasa’i English translation: Vol. 2, Book 13, Hadith 1183 (Grade:Sahih)

Anggap la dia sudah mati

Berapa kali dah aku jadi “jenazah”! Huhu..
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Alkisah Ibn Syubrumah menyelesaikan urusan yang besar untuk seorang temannya. Selepas itu temannya datang membawa hadiah kepadanya sebagai berterima kasih.
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Beliau pun berkata: “Apa ini?”
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“Kerana awak telah membantuku.”
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Beliau pun membalas: “Bawa balik, semoga Allah mengafiatkanmu. Apabila engkau memohon hajat daripada seorang temanmu, namun dia tidak bersungguh-sungguh memenuhinya, maka berwuduklah untuk solat, kemudian lakukan empat kali takbir di depannya. Anggaplah dia sudah mati.” (Ihya’ Ulum al-Din, al-Ghazali)
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Moral: Ada kala dek lama tidak diperingatkan, kita pun lupa bahawa menolong orang juga ibadah, bahkan sunnah para nabi dan orang soleh.

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MEMBACA AYAT KURSI SEBELUM TIDUR

Diriwayatkan daripada Abu Hurairah radhiallahu ‘anhu, beliau berkata;

وَكَّلَنِى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ – صلى الله عليه وسلم – بِحِفْظِ زَكَاةِ رَمَضَانَ ، فَأَتَانِى آتٍ ، فَجَعَلَ يَحْثُو مِنَ الطَّعَامِ ، فَأَخَذْتُهُ فَقُلْتُ لأَرْفَعَنَّكَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ – صلى الله عليه وسلم – . فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ فَقَالَ إِذَا أَوَيْتَ إِلَى فِرَاشِكَ فَاقْرَأْ آيَةَ الْكُرْسِىِّ لَنْ يَزَالَ عَلَيْكَ مِنَ اللَّهِ حَافِظٌ ، وَلاَ يَقْرَبُكَ شَيْطَانٌ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ . فَقَالَ النَّبِىُّ – صلى الله عليه وسلم – صَدَقَكَ وَهْوَ كَذُوبٌ ، ذَاكَ شَيْطَانٌ

“Rasulullah sollallahu ‘alaihi wasallam telah mewakilkan aku untuk menjaga harta zakat Ramadhan. Kemudian ada orang yang datang mencuri makanan. Namun aku merebutnya kembali, lalu aku katakan, “Aku pasti akan mengadukan perihal kamu kepada Rasulullah sollallahu ‘alaihi wasallam.” Maka Abu Hurairah radhiallahu ‘anhu pun menceritakan hadis berkenaan hal ini. Seterusnya orang yang datang kepadanya itu berkata, “Jika kamu hendak berbaring di atas tempat tidurmu, bacalah ayat al-Kursi nescaya sentiasalah bersamamu penjagaan daripada Allah Taala dan syaitan tidak akan dapat mendekatimu sampai pagi.” Maka Nabi sollallahu ‘alaihi wasallam bersabda, “Benarlah apa yang dikatakannya padahal dia adalah seorang pendusta. Dialah syaitan.”(Riwayat al-Bukhari).

How to Change People’s Perception of You

Based on interview on HBR.

Sarah Green: Hi, I’m Sarah Green. Today I’m talking withHeidi Grant Halvorson, psychologist and author of the new book “No OneUnderstands You and What to Do About It.” Heidi, thank you so much forcoming in today.

Heidi Grant Halvorson: Thank you, Sarah.

Sarah Green: So one of the chapters in the book that Ithought we could just drill down on a little bit is about power, and how powerchanges how we see others and changes powerful people’s ability to see us. AndI thought I’d just start by asking, What is going on here? Why does power havethis effect?

Heidi Grant Halvorson: It’s interesting, because it actuallyturns out to be literally an effect on the brain. Power does a bunch of thingsto people when they are in any kind of situation where they have control overother people’s outcomes. It makes them more interested in taking risks. Itmakes them more optimistic. But it also actually kind of narrows their visionso that they become really only interested in their own goals and what it takesto achieve them. And a result of that narrowing is that they pay a lot lessattention to people who have less power than they do. What that means is thatthey’re happy to just get the gist of you, so to speak. They may usestereotypes a lot more, shortcuts, heuristics. They’re basically relying onsurface features and very simple details to get a sense of who you are, but notreally going very deeply past that. Which obviously, is a problem for those ofus who aren’t in power, because it makes it so that they’re not really seeingwho we are, and importantly, seeing all the potential we have and everythingthat we can bring to the table.

It’s an interesting thing because it can happen to anybodywho’s in a position of power. It’s not that there are certain kinds of peoplewho do this and other people don’t. It’s really if you’re in a position ofpower, your vision gets narrowed and you just don’t notice and attend to thepeople around you the way you normally would.

Sarah Green: So if you’re in that situation where you areslightly less powerful, how do you motivate the powerful person to really takea second look at you and see you more clearly?

Heidi Grant Halvorson: Well, there’s basically two ways toget people to take a look at you when they have a first impression that youwant to get them to revise. And I like to think of them as the”tortoise” method and the “hare” method. Because one takesa while and it’s slow, but it’s very reliable. The other one’s a little bitquicker.

So the tortoise method is really understanding that it’sgoing to take a lot of information-and a lot of really eye-catching,attention-getting information-over time to convince someone to change theiropinion of you. If you have come off as just a little bit cold in the past, andso you have a reputation for being aloof, just coming in and smiling a bit morefor a few days is not going to do it.

We’re very good, again unconsciously, at either ignoring ordiscounting information about somebody that doesn’t fit with our preconceivednotions of them. We have expressions like, “Even a blind pig finds anacorn sometimes.” We just say, “Oh, well, that was a fluke.” Or”Maybe you’re smiling because you’re trying to get me to do you afavor.” We come up with explanations that allow us to keep that impressionintact.

So if you want to change an impression, you really have tobe incredibly friendly every day for like two months before people will reallybelieve you are not the cold and aloof person that they originally thought youwere. So-attention-getting, lots of evidence over time, be patient. Eventually,there’ll be a tipping point, and their opinion of you will change.

The hare method is a little bit faster, but it requires youto be a little bit more creative. And it relies on the fact that when peoplehave what psychologists call “outcome interdependency,” which meansmy outcomes depend on you-in order to get what I want, I need you to dosomething. And usually, the easiest way to do that is by working together,let’s say, on a project.

When people have that outcome interdependency, againunconsciously, they become very interested in getting one another right, inreally having an accurate view of the other person, because it’s very useful tohave an accurate view when you need to work together. And so you’ll often findpeople saying, “Oh, I thought so-and-so was such a jerk. But then I workedwith him, and it turns out he’s a really nice guy.” Well, the reason thathappens is because when you started working with so-and-so, your brain becameopen to the possibility that your first impression was wrong. You startedreally taking a look, and you figured out what the person was actually like.

So if you can find ways-and I know that’s not always fun,because sometimes when someone has a bad impression of you, the last thing youwant to do is work with them-but if you can find ways to work together or findsome ways so that that person needs you for something, it’s likely to make themtake a second look. And then you have an opportunity to correct that firstimpression and come across as you authentically are and as you intended to.

Sarah Green: And so, Heidi, if you’re the manager in thissituation and you know that you’re maybe not seeing other people clearlythrough the fog of power, how do you-is it just enough to commit to being fair,I mean, to remind yourself to try to be more open-minded and fair? Does thatactually work?

Heidi Grant Halvorson: Simply committing to being more fairusually doesn’t work because it’s so vague that it doesn’t really tell you whatyou’re going to do differently. And so people often make commitments like that.I mean, the reality is we all have the goal of being fair about one another,and nobody wants to be biased. Nobody wants to really be looking at peoplesuperficially, but we end up doing it.

So you really need to make it more of a priority and reallyspell out what you’re going to do differently. So that I’m going to maybe setaside times each week for meetings of a certain length with each of the peoplethat work with me, and really ask them about themselves, and really listen. Soif you commit to actions like that, where you’re really going to be gettingthat information you need to have a complete picture, then absolutely, you canget past that bias in perception that power creates.

Sarah Green: Well, Heidi, thank you so much for coming intoday.

Heidi Grant Halvorson: Thank you very much.

MENJAGA PANDANGAN

Kata Baginda Nabi ﷺ Tidak ada fitnah dahsyat setelah aku terhadap ummat aku melebihi, dahsyatnya fitnah perempuan pada laki-laki. Kalau lelaki boleh jaga maruah, tak mengorat perempuan, tidak akan ada perempuan yang berlengguk-lengguk di tepi jalan. Wahai kaum laki-laki, jaga maruah kamu, tidak kacau orang, tidak ganggu orang, tidak mengorat perempuan, jika kamu menjaga itu, perempuan akan menjaga dirinya . .
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Tapi perempuan akan mula jaga maruahnya, kehormatannya, apabila laki yang mula menjaga dulu. Jika tengok perempuan berhias lebih-lebihan tundukkan kepala, jika ia menggoda, dan laki-laki tidak melayan, pada saat itu perempuan akan menjaga maruahnya. Akan tetapi selagi lelaki gatal, selagi itu perempuan menggoda. Jadi kena mula dari siapa? ya laki-laki dahulu. Jangan salahkan perempuan sorang. Engkau jaga diri kamu, nescaya perempuan akan menjaga diri mereka . .
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Sebab itu yang pertama sekali disuruh oleh الله, adalah laki-laki. Iaitu katakanlah; “Wahai Muhammad, pada laki-laki untuk menjaga mata mereka. Yang kedua, menjaga pada perempuan. Wahai Adam dan Hawa, masuklah kamu ke syurga. Wahai Adam dan Hawa iblis musuh kamu. Wahai Adam dan Hawa jangan sampai iblis keluarkan kamu dari syurga . .
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Jika tidak kamu Wahai Adam akan celaka. Kenapa Adam sahaja yang celaka? Kenapa tidak dua-dua?. Ini sebab tanggungjawabnya itu ada pada laki-laki. Kita bukan kena garang pada perempuan, tidak, saya tidak cakap begitu. Kita menjalankan tugas syarak, yang ditentukan syarak, seperti sesuatu yang di kehendaki oleh syarak, itu adalah tanggungjawab laki-laki .
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~Daripada Sayyidil Habib Ali Zaenal Abidin bin Abu Bakar Al-Hamid

Fasting on the days of Tasu’a and ‘Asyura

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وَحَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الْحُلْوَانِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي مَرْيَمَ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ أَيُّوبَ، حَدَّثَنِي إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ أُمَيَّةَ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أَبَا غَطَفَانَ بْنَ طَرِيفٍ الْمُرِّيَّ، يَقُولُ سَمِعْتُ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ، بْنَ عَبَّاسٍ – رضى الله عنهما – يَقُولُ حِينَ صَامَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَوْمَ عَاشُورَاءَ وَأَمَرَ بِصِيَامِهِ قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ يَوْمٌ تُعَظِّمُهُ الْيَهُودُ وَالنَّصَارَى ‏.‏ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ فَإِذَا كَانَ الْعَامُ الْمُقْبِلُ – إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ – صُمْنَا الْيَوْمَ التَّاسِعَ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ فَلَمْ يَأْتِ الْعَامُ الْمُقْبِلُ حَتَّى تُوُفِّيَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم.
Ibn ‘Abbas reported that when the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) fasted on the day of ‘Ashura and commanded that it should he observed as a fast, they (his Companions) said to him:
Messenger of Allah, it is a day which the Jews and Christians hold in high esteem. Thereupon the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: When the next year comes, God willing, we would observe fast on the 9th But the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) died before the advent of the next year.

(Hadith translation taken from Sunnah.com)

Lessons:

1. Two days in the month of Muharram on which fasting is recommended are the day of Tasu’a (9th of Muharram) and the day of ‘Asyura (10th of Muharram).

2. The commandment to fast on both days instead of only the 10th differentiates Muslims’ practice from that of the Jews and Christians.

Let us fast in these days of Tasu’a and ‘Asyura, which fall on 19th and 20th of September 2018, respectively. May Allah forgive our sins in the past year and may we meet the Muharram of next year.