3 Steps to Increasing Your Confidence

As an ambitious person on the road to success, you know first hand how challenging it is to achieve your lofty goals. Let’s be honest, the road to success is covered with potholes and unexpected curves.


Hence confidence is crucial if you want to make it to the finish line and rise victoriously. That’s why in this article, you’re going to learn the most simple and effective 3-step sequence to help you increase your confidence for good.

  1. Learn One Thing

As an informed reader here, we’re skipping past the part where we harp on the importance of taking action for building confidence. You already took action by reading this article with the desire to get better. Perhaps, you made the sales call, pressed publish on your new post, did the interview, or pitched your idea.

But now it’s time to immediately learn one thing from the action you just took. The second after you take action, ask yourself, “What’s the one thing I can learn from this, to ensure I get a better result next time?” Always switch from your performance zone and learning zone as and when appropriate.

In case you are wondering what i meant by performance and learning zone, they are two state of mind, performance zone is a state of mind where your execute, you gives your best possible effort for the best possible result with minimal or no errors. Meanwhile, learning zone is a state of mind where you experiment, focus practiced and cautious effort on improvement a specific skill set for which will greatly enhance your overall performance in the performance zone.

Errors or mistakes in the performance zone is really not tolerable while in the learning zone, errors and mistakes are crucial in providing you the information in which aspect of your performance which be can further improved. Hence, two state of mind and attitude. Your confidence will surely grow as your skill set grew.

If you’ve read Gary Keller’s powerful book, The One Thing, you know success isn’t about trying to do a million things. It’s about doing one thing — exceptionally. Similarly, instead of trying to derive 86 lessons from that sales call you just finished, start learning simply the number one best thing you can.

Like Gary Vaynerchuk always said, focus on your strength, not your weakness, because for your weaknesses you have your doubters and critics to do that on your behalf.

Here in step one, you do so by asking yourself the aforementioned question. It works like magic. When you ask yourself a question, your brain outputs an answer. This only happens if you start this sequence immediately after you take action — regardless of the result.

“Extraordinary results happen only when you give the best you have to become the best you can be at your most important work.” – Gary Keller

  1. Validate Yourself

In step two, take the time to validate yourself with positive self talk. Tell yourself, “Nice job. That took courage. Let’s keep going, baby. I’m going to do this. I’ve got this.” The key here is to speak to yourself positively and authentically. Speak to yourself the way a great mentor, coach, or friend would. Remember too, in this step, you are not pumping yourself up with empty affirmations or false hope.

You are validating yourself because you took action and you learned from that action. This deserves credit. By practicing the act of self-validation here in step two, you train yourself to remain confident regardless of whether or not you achieved or came up short.

Validate yourself whether you land the client or fail to do so. Most don’t do this, it’s why they lack confidence. But you? You act, learn, and then validate yourself, regardless of the external result. This trains you to feel good about yourself no matter what people say about you.

While most people crumble when they don’t get the results they desired, you feel confident even when you lose this battle. You know that the campaign is long, and, if you keep learning, you’ll get accomplish the goals you desire in the end.

This is very crucial since, most of the time, the main reason why we fail to act or chase our dreams are fear of criticism and humiliation. And to make it worst, most of the time, our worst critics is ourselves.

So, make a mental instruction, tell your mind to be nice to yourself.

  1. Repeat the Action (Focused Practice Execution)

“Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it.” Carnegie said it best and its why step three is a simple call to action — to repeat the action you just took. By repeating the action as soon as possible, you don’t give yourself time to ruminate or overthink.

In step one, you learned one important, personalized nugget of wisdom that’ll help you perform better from now on. Then in step two, you validated yourself with positive self-talk — reminding yourself that by continuing to take persistent action, success is inevitable.

Now? There’s nothing left to say. Without delay, it’s time to get back on the horse and take another crack at it! Your confidence continues to grow as you take more actions, learn more from those actions, and remind yourself that you’re a champ for taking all these actions!

“Don’t let small thinking cut your life down to size. Think big, aim high, act bold. And see just how big you can blow up your life.” – Gary Keller

Why This 3-Step Sequence Increases Your Confidence for Good

By repeating this sequence, you gain important knowledge, continuously remind yourself of your positive traits, and most importantly — you desensitize yourself to any fears you once had.

You’re going to fall in love with this process of taking action. Whether that action for you is making sales calls, pitching your startup to investors, interviewing for competitive positions, or publishing new content online, the more you act using these 3-steps, the more confident you’ll become.

A key side benefit of using this sequence is you quickly enter a massive, perpetual state of action. This all but guarantees you increased real world results. These improved results become the cherry on top to your core confidence.

Face your fears and be victorious !



Categories: Personal Development


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